The Truth About Attraction: You Don't Attract What You Are, You Attract What You Need to Learn and Grow
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The Truth About Attraction: You Don't Attract What You Are, You Attract What You Need to Learn and Grow
Have you ever wondered why your past relationships always ended up the same way? Maybe you tend to attract partners who are emotionally unavailable or have commitment issues. You might have heard the saying, "like attracts like," but what if I told you that it's not always the case? In relationships, you don't attract what you are, but rather, you attract what you need to learn and grow.
Relationships Are Mirrors
It's natural to think that we attract people who are like us because we tend to seek out those who share our interests, values, and beliefs. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, the universe works in mysterious ways. Sometimes, we attract people who are our complete opposite, challenging us to look at things from a different perspective and learn something new about ourselves.
For example, let's say you're someone who values independence and freedom. You might attract someone who demonstrates clinginess or neediness, who craves attention and affection at all times. Naturally, this could cause conflicts and arguments in the relationship. However, if you take a closer look, you might realise that your partner is mirroring some unresolved emotional wounds from your past. Perhaps you grew up in a family where you didn't receive enough love and attention, so you learned to value independence as a way to protect yourself from getting hurt. By attracting a clinging partner, you're given an opportunity to heal this wound and learn to embrace vulnerability and intimacy.
Nature Is Always Geared Toward Healing
Another reason why we attract what we need to learn and grow is because all nature is geared toward healing.
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Sometimes, this requires us to step out of our comfort zones and face challenges that we wouldn't have encountered otherwise. Think of it this way: if everything always went smoothly in our relationships, we wouldn't have the opportunity to develop our emotional intelligence, communication skills, and resilience. By attracting partners who challenge us in these areas, we're given the chance to become more self-aware, empathetic, and compassionate human beings.
Prioritise Respect As The Basis For Relationships
However, it's important to note that you should never settle for less than you deserve in the name of growth. Just because someone challenges you doesn't mean that they're the right fit for you. If your partner is constantly draining your energy, disrespecting your boundaries, and hindering your growth, it might be time to reconsider the relationship. It's crucial to find a balance between comfort and growth - someone who makes you feel safe and loved, but also presents you the space to heal, grow and evolve.
Finally…
In conclusion, the saying "like attracts like" might be oversimplified when it comes to relationships. Instead, we attract what we need to learn and grow. Our partners function as mirrors, reflecting back to us our unresolved emotional wounds and giving us the opportunity to heal and evolve. Although challenges and conflicts can be uncomfortable, they're often necessary for our growth as individuals. However, it's important to remember that growth and comfort aren't mutually exclusive. Look for a partner who makes you feel supported and loved while also presenting you the space to heal and evolve.
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